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Soon, very soon
So now it is eleven days until my wedding, and I am running on a constant background stress level that is made up of about 2/3 wedding and 1/3 things I have to get done at work before the end of the week and then have to hurry to finish up when I get back. These things are student grant applications with hard deadlines, so I'm actually only taking 1.5 weeks off work around my wedding rather than a full 2 weeks just so I can come back and get those damned things submitted on time. These kids had better appreciate what I do for them!
So now it's all in the last-minute details. We've had several problems (one of which nearly cost us the legality of our wedding day, and now we'll be having a religious ceremony instead of a civil one) but I think if we keep working at it things will come out okay in the end. But busy busy busy! Tonight I have hockey, tomorrow we meet with the ceremony officiant, Thursday Paul has something, Friday I have hockey again (last one before the wedding). Then Monday we meet with the caterer, and Monday night NE and Ly get here. On October 7 BC and Phoenix get here, and finally getting to meet them is almost as exciting as the wedding itself!
Still so much to do, and it's all stuff that can't be done until the last minute, too. I hate having to wait to get things done! @_@
So now it's all in the last-minute details. We've had several problems (one of which nearly cost us the legality of our wedding day, and now we'll be having a religious ceremony instead of a civil one) but I think if we keep working at it things will come out okay in the end. But busy busy busy! Tonight I have hockey, tomorrow we meet with the ceremony officiant, Thursday Paul has something, Friday I have hockey again (last one before the wedding). Then Monday we meet with the caterer, and Monday night NE and Ly get here. On October 7 BC and Phoenix get here, and finally getting to meet them is almost as exciting as the wedding itself!
Still so much to do, and it's all stuff that can't be done until the last minute, too. I hate having to wait to get things done! @_@
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As for "the best day ever", I've never understood why there's such a heavy focus on the wedding. Granted, in my family weddings are traditionally much more about everyone getting together to celebrate than the actual bride and groom. They're the excuse. :D
Traditionally the way we view it is that the bride's family pays for the wedding part, while the groom's family must pay for the reception, which these days is expected to be an open bar and ample and decent food. As I said, it's far more about a fun time for the attendees than just the couple. There's also strong pressure to be financially sensible. For those who have the money to splash about, by all means go with the expensive venue, doves, etc. etc.; while those who don't are actually questioned if people feel they're spending more than necessary. Everyone would rather that the money go to buying a home, or at least something like a really good honeymoon, rather than just focusing on the wedding itself. It's just one day after all -- there's also a life to be lived after!
And speaking of things like wedding arrangements, do you have a registry somewhere I could make a purchase online to be gifted to you and Paul anonymously? :)
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Now although churches are supposed to follow this 20-day posting rule as well, for some reason the government allows them to slip around it if they want/need to (hell if I know why they get to be so special), so we managed to find a non-denominational church who would help us. Finding anyone to do this was difficult in itself, because this all happened on a Monday, and church people don't work on Mondays because they all worked on Sunday! The first church I got through to told me I was screwed just like the lawyer said, but with the help of several friends who called around nonstop, we were saved.
It's actually better this way (even though it cost us more $$ and stress), because this nondenominational officiant is willing to work with us to tailor a ceremony to our preferences...and she knows what she's doing, so we'll be a lot more organized. We met with her on Wednesday and she is really sweet and prepared, and although she is from a religious organization it seems that she will not really be mentioning God in the ceremony. She has some good stuff prepared and we're just going with that. So much easier!
By "the best day ever" I mean "the best party ever". The whole reason why we're doing this is because I want to have a great party with all my friends and family with the people I want and the music I want, and just dance the night away while looking beautiful. The ceremony is a pre-party formality. ^_~
My parents have been helping financially, but Paul's family can't spare the money...they're helping in other ways, like providing the cake, the centerpieces and other homemade items. The burden is mostly on me and Paul, and we are trying to be as frugal as possible. And even so, unexpected costs keeps piling up, to the point where the idea of a budget is just a myth. We are hoping that the guests will be somewhat generous so that we can dig back out of this hole!
To that end, we do not have a registry, in the hopes of silently urging people to give us what we really need. Sorry...but thank you very much for the thought! ^_^
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As long as nothing blows up or catches on fire, no one is going to remember any of the little details that go wrong. I promise. And if something does blow up or catch on fire, then you will have stories to tell for years to come, because one day, it will eventually be funny.
Are you getting married the 9th? That's when my "baby" brother is getting married too.
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I'm sure the little details of the day will be forgotten, and I doubt they will be as big of stress points as the planning leading up to it...the guests would never even know about all the problems we've had if I didn't tell them.
At least in one week it'll be over and I can be done with the stress and just be myself again! Generally I'm a pretty cheerful optimist, and I have never been so upset, depressed, angry, impatient and irritable for anything close to this length of time before. I feel like I haven't really been myself in a long time, and it hurts inside. :(
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I'm sure it will all work out in the end. I've never heard of a wedding being a complete disaster and I've been involved in a lot of them. Your family and friends are going to be there and they are going to be supportive and they will help you with any last-minute or ongoing fiascos.
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