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So this is that Facebook guy's status this morning:

"[His name] hates being cencored. Long live free speech and the free exchange of ideas without persecution!"

Gee, I wonder what that's in relation to. Somehow I doubt that it's a coincidence. The poor baby, not being allowed to spout misogynistic bullshit on my personal page anymore. Apparently this is equivalent to censorship, persecution and anti-free speech. Wow, this guy is truly amazing.

You know, when you try to keep internet and real life separate as much as possible, it's all the more jarring when you run into the equivalent of an internet wanker in real life.

ETA: Oh, sheesh. Well, it definitely wasn't a coincidence--he actually whining about me in his Facebook status. The following conversation with a friend of his occurred under that status:

Friend: Who censored you and did it involve nudity??
Him: nah, was just having a conversation about politics, and we had differing views, I was having a stimulating time, but the person felt insulted and thretened to "unfriend" me if I continued talking about said subject. So i did, but felt sad, because I like hard discussions like that. Makes us grow, I find.
Friend: I agree and it's a shame. Reminds me of what a good friend of mine once said :"it sounds better in my head".
Him: ya, sometimes I have inflamatory remarks, but sometimes it's to stimulate conversation that I do it, not to piss people off. oh well...

In short: He's such a big man, a martyr and a wanker all rolled into one. "Differing views", "stimulating time", "hard discussions", "sometimes I have inflamatory remarks ... to stimulate conversation"...sure, you high intellectual, you. You want to "grow"? Take it upon yourself to educate yourself so that you don't come off as a misogynistic creep. It's not up to me to indulge or teach you.

And I am so sure that you felt "sad" rather than, you know, thwarted.

I'd defriend this guy right now but I don't know if it'll get back to Paul somehow. I don't feel like having to explain that I was fighting with one of his friends and think the guy's an asshole. Sigh. Am I overreacting?

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Date: 2009-09-21 01:43 am (UTC)
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What he was attempting to engage in wasn't a "free exchange of ideas", and it wasn't "politics" it was spouting misogynistic clap trap, and he evidently can't handle being told to keep it to himself (which was your right, in said "free exchange of ideas").

I'd say defriend this fellow (or not) as you see fit. And tell Paul. so it's not something he hears second or third hand. You're not obligated to like all his friends, or get on with them, anymore than he is obligated to like and get on with yours. Likewise you can't expect him to drop said friend just because you don't like the fellow -- but that doesn't mean you're obligated to associate with him. You're adults, and separate individuals, in spite of being a couple. And if the friend can't handle that and gives Paul flack? Well, that's one more mark of his lack of social maturity.

Edited to add: Premature post. You don't have to go into great depths, but you should tell Paul what happened. Not so that he feels obligated to do anything himself, but so that he knows what happened. Also, I wouldn't worry about it -- things like this happen. There are a few of my friends that my s.o. doesn't particularly care for, and it's no big deal since we're not close. Likewise, they're not allowed to complain to me that my s.o. doesn't like them -- that's between them, and no bearing on our relationship. Conversely there are some of my s.o.'s friends who you would have to pay me massive amounts of money (and alcohol) to spend protracted time with, but that's O.K., too. I can be polite when we meet, and we're not obligated to socialize with each other. :)
Edited Date: 2009-09-21 01:47 am (UTC)


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